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Co-Parenting: When Enough is Enough

Dear God, At times I just need you to hold me and say it is well. I am doing my absolute best and sometimes I feel like it is yet still not enough. Continue to guide me Lord as I try to walk the path you set for me. Life is not easy always but with you life is worth every journey and every obstacle. So I’ll continue to trust you. Just don’t leave me. Amen I’ve been a mom for 21 years. And for most of those years, I’ve been a single mom. That’s not something I set out to be, nor is it something I wear like a badge of honor—but it is something I’m proud of. Why? Simply put…because when others gave up, I didn’t. I’ll be the first to admit, I haven’t been perfect. I’ve dropped the ball. I’ve missed opportunities. I’ve let my kids down at times, by no means am I proud. I’m also the one who showed up, who’s always made ways when I didn’t even know how. I’ve been there at school assemblies, sporting events, parent-teacher conferences, IEP meetings, and disciplinary hearings. I’ve been willing...
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Grief: The Gut-Wrenching Truth About Losing a Parent

Dear God, In my pain I turned away. I’m sorry. I was hurt. I blamed you. I was angry. I didn’t know any better. I felt like you took away the joy and peace that you gave me. Im working on knowing that you give and you take and you still love me. Help me to accept your will even when it isn’t my way. Amen Being open about grief isn’t easy when you’re still honestly grieving. I’d be remised if I didn’t acknowledge a few people. First God. Boy I don’t deserve your grace. However, through it all, you always provide it. When I don’t know myself, you are there walking me through. To my mom…your presence and attempted comfort is not overlooked. My children. God knows I would be nothing without you. You call and make me laugh when you don’t know it’s needed. To my best friend, even though you live in Durham you’ve made sure your presence was felt. Forever my girl. I love you forever. God knew I needed you. Last but not least, my headache…the homie, my buddy. You allowed me to experience grief ...
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From Paired to Single Parent: The Weight of Doing It Alone

Dear God, Somethings are out of my hands. I am grateful for the closed doors and even more for the opened ones. Thank you for covering me. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for ensuring my path is made easy. In Jesus name, Amen . There was a time when our home echoed with the rhythm of two parents navigating life together. The mornings were filled with the hustle of shared responsibilities—one making breakfast while the other packed lunches. If I couldn’t make it to an appointment, dad could. If one of us was tired, the other could pick up the slack. There was a balance, a partnership. But now, as a single parent, that rhythm has changed—and some days, it feels like I’m dancing alone to a song that never ends. My son loves the movie Vivo where the song is Dance to the Beat of My Own Drum! That’s me! These days, every doctor’s appointment, every school meeting, every late-night fever or early morning meltdown—it all falls on me. Taking a day off work is no longer a shared decision;...
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Am I A Cougar?!?: Breaking the Stigma of Dating Younger Men

Dear God, in this phase of my life I am just grateful for opened and closed doors. I trust you. May anything that is not meant to better me as a person quickly find its way to the wrong path, while I continue to navigate the path you have for me. In Jesus Name. Amen. So I have been talking to this guy who is much younger than me…when I say much I mean more than three years! When I tell you the laughter is everything, it is everything. At work one day I remember someone asking how old he was and instantly I wanted to say an older age. I didn’t, but it made me wonder, why was I ashamed to admit a younger guy caught my attention? At that moment I realized, ya girl’s a cougar! Lawd have mercy! But what is it about the word “cougar” that makes us cringe? Society has glamorized older men dating younger women forever—nobody bats an eye. But when a grown woman, established in her life, chooses to entertain someone a few (or several) years her junior, suddenly she’s a punchline or a predator. L...
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Grown Woman Ish: Navigating Dating and Standing Up for Yourself

Dear God, My life wouldn’t be the same without you. As I navigate this life, I continue to remain grateful that you are the head of my life. As I move forward I beg you continue to order my steps, block everything that is wrong, and make clear every answer to decisions that would be right. Thank you for never forgetting me. Amen. There comes a point in every woman’s journey where she realizes—I’m not begging for bare minimum anymore. I’ve cried the tears, done the healing, and learned that softness doesn’t mean silence. This is grown woman ish. And dating? Whew. That’s a whole different game when you’re no longer willing to shrink just to be chosen. The dating pool is TAINTED! Embracing Your Worth As women—especially those balancing multiple roles in life—we carry a wisdom forged by experience. We know how to pour into others and stand strong amid life’s challenges. But when it comes to love, we deserve someone who not only recognizes our depth but meets us halfway. Heck, sometimes the...
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